I think you’d be surprised by how much you reveal about yourself through your body language. Do you stand erect with your head up or do you slump your shoulders with your head hanging? Are your movements relaxed or spastic?
Our assessments of people happen on a subconscious level (or conscious, if you know what to look for) based on body language cues we get from other people. Usually, within moments of interacting with someone, we are able to come to a pretty accurate idea of how someone views themselves. Do they think they are valuable and worthwhile or do they think they are lowly and meek? We are able to determine this by all of the tiny, minute signals we give off via how we sit, stand, walk, talk etc. Everything we do outside of the actual words that come out of our mouths, says something about us.
Your body language is the manifestation of your beliefs about
|Perfect example of a confident woman.|
Notice how she is completely comfortable
in her own skin and owns her presence.
Your body language and your beliefs about yourself have a yin-yang relationship with one another; they both influence each other. In order to carry yourself as someone who values themselves, it’s best to change both your body language and your beliefs. I’ll save a post for another time on your beliefs, so for now let’s just work on having proper body language:
- Good posture. Make sure your back is straight; shoulders are down, back and relaxed; chin up a bit. Imagine if there were a string coming out at the top of your head and you pulled it up. The picture below is how your posture should look:
- Own your space. Own your presence. Be powerful but not arrogant.
- Slow down your movements. They should be slow and relaxed and reflect that overall, you are coming from a place of "I am mature, secure and confident". You are not in a hurry to get anywhere and you are completely content wherever you are. Be Michelle Obama.
Now, obviously, even confident people get attacked here and there. I am not saying that this is a sure-fire way to avoid confrontation with others completely. But, I would wager that criminals would think twice about attacking someone who clearly is internally strong.
If you want more info on this topic, I highly recommend checking out this awesome TED talk on body language and looking/feeling powerful: